10 Commandments of Co-Parenting in Child Custody – 1. Thou Shalt Not Use Your Child as a Spy

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10 Commandments of Co-Parenting in Child Custody – 1. Thou Shalt Not Use Your Child as a Spy

This topic is so important it was one of our first Youtube videos. I’m surprised I was this chill about the subject at the time because if I made this video today I would be unlikely to suppress my rage at too many Parents, Co-Parents, and Relative Caregivers whose seemingly favorite thing to talk about, with […]

10 Commandments of Co-Parenting in Child Custody – 2. Don’t Record Conversations with Your Co-Parent

My years of legal study, my review and continuing legal education of the Rules of Evidence, but most of all, my experience as a Child Custody specialist have, over the years, developed and honed my response to a client anytime he or she tells me that they recorded a conversation or interaction with their Co-Parent… […]

1 Frequent Answer to 1000s of Frequently Asked Child Custody Questions…

“My life has been filled with terrible misfortune, most of which never happened.” – Michel de Montagne Or, if you go to church in the South: “F.E.A.R. – False Evidence Appearing Real” I provide specific answers to other specific and frequently asked questions in other articles. This article is really more about the class or category, or flavor, if […]

Why (and when) compromise and flexibility are overrated in Child Custody and Co‑Parenting…

*          *          * Decide – to come to a resolution; from the latin de-, meaning “off”, and caedere, meaning “to cut.” *          *          * Compromise and flexibility are great assets for a co-parent in dealing with a co‑parent or relative caregiver…or are they?  Believe it or not, in certain stages of a co-parenting relationship, compromise […]

Writing Sample – The “Now or Never” Value of Early Education

In a recent case, I was faced with advocating either for allowing a family to delay a child’s entrance into pre-school by one year or advocating for the immediate enrollment. The question I faced was how important one year of early education really is. Luckily, there was a good deal of scholarship on the topic and […]

Drug Testing in Child Custody Cases

Is drug use or abuse an issue in your Child Custody case? This video contains discusses some options for drug testing during and after your Child Custody case. Hope it helps. Watch on Youtube: Drug Testing in Child Custody Cases:

Opinions in Child Custody Cases, Part 1 – “Grandma’s Two Cents”

Listen, a HUUUGE part of being effective in your Child Custody case is knowing the difference between facts and opinions. I explain how focusing on the facts, posted on Foxtrot’s Youtube page, can empower you, individually, and allow you more control over your case. Here, though, I want to talk about the kinds of opinions […]

Focus on the Facts in Your Child Custody Case

Where are you spending your energy during your child custody case? This video contains some quick directions on where to focus your day-to-day energy and attention during a child custody proceeding. Hope it helps. Watch on Youtube: Focus on the Facts in Your Child Custody Case Do not concern yourself with someone “feels” about a situation. […]

Why Your Child Custody Lawyer Needs Technology….

Anyone with a Facebook, Twitter, or “Insta” account knows the ability of technology to connect us. The ability to connect with your lawyer and effectively communicate is crucial to your case, your children, and to your peace of mind. In a world of innovation, lawyers continue to do way too many things exactly the same […]

Be Effective…and then be a Parent.

Last time we wrote we talked about how to “show love” in Child Custody cases. We did that because it’s easier to show a judge what you’re doing for your child than it is to show how feel about your child. In this short post, we write about what’s next, and honestly, that’s completely up to you because we […]