Child Custody Devotional – PERMA-nent Custody?

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Child Custody Devotional – PERMA-nent Custody?

Happiness isn’t just about feeling better, but that’s part of it. More positive emotions obviously correlate with well-being, but the problem is it’s tough to control our emotions and #CoParenting and #ChildCustody is chaotic enough without judging each feeling or reaction we have to something. ~ That’s where a model like the PERMA model, pioneered […]

Wishful Thinking and Expectations from the Other Side in Child Custody

There’s a lot of wishful thinking in #ChildCustody and #CoParenting. It’s not even fair to the Other Side to expect something from them that they can’t or won’t give. Your peace and effectiveness must come from you…from your side, your squad, your team…because we can tell you who it’s not coming from.

Peace in your Child Custody case doesn’t depend on the Weather…

#parenting tip – an author we enjoy and learn a lot from doesn’t miss a chance to (safely) play outside in the rain with his son. #resilience is a buzzword these days, but it’s worth learning that opportunities for peace, joy and even some silliness don’t depend on the weather.

Child Custody is about Deciding Who You Are…Not What You Do

There’s a big difference between saying “I quit smoking” and “I’m not a smoker.” Especially in DHR cases, you can’t be effective in your Child Custody case by checking boxes. It’s about deciding who you are and the decisions and actions that flow out of that. ~ Are you the kind of person who is […]

The Benefit of Small Victories in Child Custody…

When you want your kids with you so badly in a #ChildCustody case, it’s easy to focus so much thought and energy on the “BIG WIN” that you take for granted the million little ways to make your situation just a little bit better for you and the kids. Here’s 3 things to appreciate about […]

Express Yourself in Child Custody and Co-Parenting…

Express Yourself in Child Custody and Co-Parenting… Here’s the beautiful thing about a detailed Child Custody and Visitation Schedule. It creates space for all sides. Within that space, whether large or small, your decisions and actions as a parent or relative caregiver are great, if not the best, ways to express yourself.  What if the […]

What Poker can Teach Us about Child Custody and Co-Parenting…

There’s a lot less causation in our world than we think. There are questionable decisions that work out and there are conservative, rational decisions that blow up in our face. We get that, generally… But for some reason, in Child Custody, a sphere of human activity with even more chaos than usual, we think if […]

In Child Custody, Give Credit Where Credit is Due…

Quick #ChildCustody Tip on a #FoxtrotFriday…but it’s a tricky one and requires just a little perspective and self awareness. Can you testify to one thing the Other Side does well to serve your children? Or one thing that you, yourself, could improve on in your parenting? Giving credit where credit is due and conceding room […]

Do You Have an Appointment with Your Kids in Child Custody and Co-Parenting?

Do you Have an appointment with your kids in #childcustody and #coparenting? Court hearings are set by appointment; that’s called due process and it’s important enough to be in the United States Constitution. Why not have specified times and days for  your Facetime or your phone call with your kids? “Because adults ought to be […]

You Have Your Permission to XYZ in Your Child Custody Case…

On this #FoxtrotFriday, you have my permission to be happy and hopeful.  Did you know that getting permission from someone, it could literally be anyone, can significantly increase one’s ability to find peace and joy in whatever they’re “getting permission” to do? Even better, you can give yourself permission. What important decisions or activities are […]