The Courage to Measure your Discomfort in Child Custody…

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The Courage to Measure your Discomfort in Child Custody…

In Child Custody law, these scales shouldn’t mean what you might think at first blush. In Foxtrot’s universe, they measure discomfort. When the immediate discomfort of staying the same, (or even unwittingly allowing things to get worse), outweighs the discomfort of making a change…that’s when we take action. How comfortable are you with your Child […]

Beware the Narrative Fallacy in Child Custody and CoParenting

What’s the narrative fallacy? Abhishek Chakraborty, writer of ‘Sunday Wisdom’ on the website, Medium, puts it this way, “Life is full of random facts. You forcibly knit them together to give it meaning.” How does this relate to #ChildCustody and #CoParenting…? ~ ~ If you would like to speak more about how you, as a […]

Child Custody Devotional – Vengeance? Or Patience…

…at that time I will deal with all your oppressors. Zephaniah 3:19 ~ Receiving this passage can lead us in a couple of different directions. It can engender anger, vengeance or wrath. I prefer, though, to receive it as a call for patience, humility and agency. ~ I take it as patience, that the time […]

Child Custody Devotional – Identify and Develop Individual Skills in Co-Parenting…

I am now come forth to give thee skill and understanding. Daniel 9:22 ~ In #ChildCustody and #CoParenting, I think we give short shrift to ‘skill’ as parents. We oversimplify it to ourselves, in our own heads and hearts. More importantly, the Courts oversimplify it. Less importantly, the Other Side oversimplifies it. None of us […]

Child Custody Devotional – Practice these Things…

What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me — practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you. Phillippians 4:9 ~ We love the word ‘practice’. It is fundamental to our mission on several levels. In its transitive verb sense, our #childcustody lawyers don’t “do” law they “practice […]

Setting the Table, in Life, Child Custody and Co-Parenting…

We need to set the table. It doesn’t have to be complicated, but we need to do it. Ever sit down for a nice meal at home, you’re excited, hungry and ready to relax…maybe you’ve finally put the kids down, poured a glass of wine and started up Disney+ ready to veg…only to realize you […]

Child Custody Devotional – All Things for the Good…

…in all things God works for the good… Romans 8:28 If you have ever dealt with #childcustody or #coparenting issues, then something has not turned out the way you planned. It is self-evident that, if possible and with all things being equal, it is more efficient and effective to raise a child as a nuclear […]

What are Pediatricians saying about screen time and virtual school…?

Screen time is a big topic in #parenting and #coparenting these days, but it’s also more necessary than ever with virtual school and online projects. What can Pediatricians let us know about minimizing actual health risks of too much screen time…? #asthnopia #202020rule #1210rule #childcustody #familylaw Here’s a link to the article at healthychildren.org: https://www.healthychildren.org/English/tips-tools/ask-the-pediatrician/Pages/avoid-eye-and-back-strain-from-the-computer.aspx

Child Custody Devotional – You will Know it by Your Fruit…

The Maker is never removed from the Made. Put another way, “you will know them by their fruits.” (Matthew 7:16). As our clients know, and as best as we fallibly can, we practice non-judgment at Foxtrot. The concept of fault is much less relevant than the concept of an objective present reality. But, as Jerry […]

Child Custody Devotional – PERMA-nent Custody?

Happiness isn’t just about feeling better, but that’s part of it. More positive emotions obviously correlate with well-being, but the problem is it’s tough to control our emotions and #CoParenting and #ChildCustody is chaotic enough without judging each feeling or reaction we have to something. ~ That’s where a model like the PERMA model, pioneered […]