Take a Step Back in Child Custody and Co-Parenting… (video)

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Take a Step Back in Child Custody and Co-Parenting… (video)

We’ve all heard about “taking one step forward and two steps back.” It sure can feel like that in #ChildCustody and #CoParenting. You’ve probably heard this before, too, but taking a step back to be mindful of your emotions and your internal reactions BEFORE reacting to the Other Side or to the situation can be […]

In Child Custody, it’s about Energy Management, not Time Management

How long does it take to share a laugh? A hug that doesn’t feel obligatory to one or both huggers? (sad but happens more than you think). Our memories, and more importantly, our children’s memories, capture MOMENTS rather than hours or days or weekends. BUT, and this is the hard part for us and our […]

Cocaine cut with Fentanyl coming to a Child Custody Case near you…

WARNING… NPR, other media outlets and Foxtrot’s own grapevine are reflecting the prevalence of powder cocaine cut with or containing enough Fentanyl to significantly increase the risk of an overdose. Fentanyl is 100x more powerful than morphine and especially dangerous when snorted. ~ Don’t do drugs or anything illegal. You risk losing time with your […]

Everyone else’s Dreamworld in Child Custody and Co-Parenting…

Live in a #coparenting dreamworld of bubblegum and patient, understanding, respectful, flexible folks on the Other Side of your #ChildCustody case? Neither do we. When the two-cent mafia tells you “you guys just need to communicate and work that out” avoid the urge to use a phrase that ends in “Sherlock” and just call a […]

Child Custody Devotional – “Happy” is over…

An article by the founder of https://positivepsychology.com/ caught my eye, “Why You Should Have Never Had Kids (If You Want To Be Happy, That Is)”, and I confess that its half-troll, half-clickbait title got me.  ~ The thrust of the article, written by Seph Fontane Pennock, is that peer-reviewed, academic research supports a conclusion that […]

The Courage to Measure your Discomfort in Child Custody…

In Child Custody law, these scales shouldn’t mean what you might think at first blush. In Foxtrot’s universe, they measure discomfort. When the immediate discomfort of staying the same, (or even unwittingly allowing things to get worse), outweighs the discomfort of making a change…that’s when we take action. How comfortable are you with your Child […]

Beware the Narrative Fallacy in Child Custody and CoParenting

What’s the narrative fallacy? Abhishek Chakraborty, writer of ‘Sunday Wisdom’ on the website, Medium, puts it this way, “Life is full of random facts. You forcibly knit them together to give it meaning.” How does this relate to #ChildCustody and #CoParenting…? ~ ~ If you would like to speak more about how you, as a […]

Child Custody Devotional – Vengeance? Or Patience…

…at that time I will deal with all your oppressors. Zephaniah 3:19 ~ Receiving this passage can lead us in a couple of different directions. It can engender anger, vengeance or wrath. I prefer, though, to receive it as a call for patience, humility and agency. ~ I take it as patience, that the time […]

Child Custody Devotional – On Daylight Savings…

“And they arose early: and it came to pass about the spring of the day…” 1 Samuel 9:26 ~ No, you didn’t sleep in more than usual. #DaylightSavingsTime is here! Spring forward, everyone. For the next few months, each day greets us with two wonderful opportunities. ~ First, arise early and greet the dawn when […]

Child Custody Devotional – Identify and Develop Individual Skills in Co-Parenting…

I am now come forth to give thee skill and understanding. Daniel 9:22 ~ In #ChildCustody and #CoParenting, I think we give short shrift to ‘skill’ as parents. We oversimplify it to ourselves, in our own heads and hearts. More importantly, the Courts oversimplify it. Less importantly, the Other Side oversimplifies it. None of us […]