Criticism and Disagreement and Learning and Growth in Child Custody…

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Criticism and Disagreement and Learning and Growth in Child Custody…

It’s hard not to fear criticism, even for us. We take on difficult cases against individuals and state agencies who think they’re just as right as we think we are and they’re more than willing to tell us so in no uncertain terms. It never feels good and you never really get used to it. […]

Child Custody Devotional – Every one of us has all we need…

Every one of us has all we need. – John Lennon / Paul McCartney So normally I pick out a Bible verse to write about on Sundays. But wisdom, even spiritual insight, comes from anywhere and everywhere. That’s because fundamental truth is just that, and it’s not confined to a certain book or genre or […]

What’s Your State of the Union in Child Custody…?

He shall from time to time give to the Congress Information of the State of the Union, and recommend to their Consideration such Measures as he shall judge necessary and expedient. U.S.C.A. Const. Art. II § 3 Today, the President of the United States will deliver the #StateoftheUnion address and, don’t get me wrong, it […]

Calendar Your Energy, Not Just Your Events…

Anyone raising or caring for a child by themselves knows that a trip to the grocery store, a conversation with your Ex, or maybe even just a shower is an event unto itself. But you don’t have to limit your calendar to scheduling events or activities. Simplify your sad days. Block off time to do […]

Some Advice from your Child Custody Caddie at St. Andrews…

Here’s a lighthearted anecdote for a #FoxtrotFriday. We’re not here to judge and we don’t judge. When you meet and work with us you are in the “no judgment zone” or the “trust tree” or whatever you might want to call it. To drive our point home, we often tell this story about a local […]

Get Mad in Child Custody…but Don’t Stay Mad…

Anger is inevitable, especially in #ChildCustody and #CoParenting.  Relevant research shows that completely avoiding negative emotions in life is practically impossible. The important distinction, though, is how long we stay in a negative emotional state and what we do with the energy that comes from that state. Anger can actually be valuable. It’s much better […]

The Dirtiest Word in Child Custody…

When all you do all day every day is help parents and relatives in Child Custody cases, you start to notice some patterns. Some patterns are helpful, some aren’t. One pattern we’ve picked up on is the kind of language our clients use, more specifically, their vocabulary. I bet dollars to doughnuts there is a […]

Gift-Giving in Child Custody – Part 1: Child Support

What do you do when you want to give your children gifts at the holidays but you owe Child Support? Can I give a gift or is that going to come back and bite me? There’s a couple of different fundamental things at play here… First, you either owe more or less than $1,000 in […]

Let Your Negative Emotions Fuel Positive Action in Child Custody…

(4 min read) We just talked about embarrassment versus shame, how the former is part of life and even helpful while the latter stems from a debilitating kind of fear. It got me thinking about the flipside of other “reactionary” emotions and how we can translate that negative energy into positive action and progress. This […]

It’s okay to be embarrassed, but NOT to be ashamed…

(2 ½ min read) Ever made a mistake as a parent? as a person? A big one even? What did you learn from it? What are you doing differently now that you’ve had that experience? Would you go back in time and undo that mistake? What opportunities do you have for yourself and others because […]