Your Child Custody Experience – Your Circle of Influence – w Exercise

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Your Child Custody Experience – Your Circle of Influence – w Exercise

Who influences your life? How so? To what extent? Is this someone you’re stuck with, for better or worse, e.g., your child, hopefully? Is this someone you can minimize, whether presence-wise or influence-wise, in your life, like a manipulative Co-Parent, perhaps? When the talking heads on ESPN joke about an athlete living in an opponent’s […]

In Child Custody, Get Mad…then get Curious.

We’re not going to tell you not to get mad in your #ChildCustody case. It’s gonna happen; that’s okay and totally normal. Getting mad, though, is step one. Step two is to get curious… ~ So, ask yourself some questions. “If I’m hurt, what is it…in me…that is hurting?” “How am I complicit in this […]

Take a Step Back in Child Custody and Co-Parenting… (video)

We’ve all heard about “taking one step forward and two steps back.” It sure can feel like that in #ChildCustody and #CoParenting. You’ve probably heard this before, too, but taking a step back to be mindful of your emotions and your internal reactions BEFORE reacting to the Other Side or to the situation can be […]

In Child Custody, it’s about Energy Management, not Time Management

How long does it take to share a laugh? A hug that doesn’t feel obligatory to one or both huggers? (sad but happens more than you think). Our memories, and more importantly, our children’s memories, capture MOMENTS rather than hours or days or weekends. BUT, and this is the hard part for us and our […]

What’s your Child Custody Vision…? Your Child Custody Mission…?

Vision involves logistics, planning and tactics. That’s important, but it’s the easy part. Mission is based on your values. Really understanding your values is hard. Aligning your vision with your mission is hard. It’s worth it to you and your family. ~ The information provided here is general in nature and not to be considered […]

Child Custody Devotional – “Happy” is over…

An article by the founder of caught my eye, “Why You Should Have Never Had Kids (If You Want To Be Happy, That Is)”, and I confess that its half-troll, half-clickbait title got me.  ~ The thrust of the article, written by Seph Fontane Pennock, is that peer-reviewed, academic research supports a conclusion that […]

Beware the Narrative Fallacy in Child Custody and CoParenting

What’s the narrative fallacy? Abhishek Chakraborty, writer of ‘Sunday Wisdom’ on the website, Medium, puts it this way, “Life is full of random facts. You forcibly knit them together to give it meaning.” How does this relate to #ChildCustody and #CoParenting…? ~ ~ If you would like to speak more about how you, as a […]

Child Custody Devotional – Identify and Develop Individual Skills in Co-Parenting…

I am now come forth to give thee skill and understanding. Daniel 9:22 ~ In #ChildCustody and #CoParenting, I think we give short shrift to ‘skill’ as parents. We oversimplify it to ourselves, in our own heads and hearts. More importantly, the Courts oversimplify it. Less importantly, the Other Side oversimplifies it. None of us […]

Setting the Table, in Life, Child Custody and Co-Parenting…

We need to set the table. It doesn’t have to be complicated, but we need to do it. Ever sit down for a nice meal at home, you’re excited, hungry and ready to relax…maybe you’ve finally put the kids down, poured a glass of wine and started up Disney+ ready to veg…only to realize you […]

What are Pediatricians saying about screen time and virtual school…?

Screen time is a big topic in #parenting and #coparenting these days, but it’s also more necessary than ever with virtual school and online projects. What can Pediatricians let us know about minimizing actual health risks of too much screen time…? #asthnopia #202020rule #1210rule #childcustody #familylaw Here’s a link to the article at