Wishful Thinking and Expectations from the Other Side in Child Custody

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Wishful Thinking and Expectations from the Other Side in Child Custody

There’s a lot of wishful thinking in #ChildCustody and #CoParenting. It’s not even fair to the Other Side to expect something from them that they can’t or won’t give. Your peace and effectiveness must come from you…from your side, your squad, your team…because we can tell you who it’s not coming from.

Peace in your Child Custody case doesn’t depend on the Weather…

#parenting tip – an author we enjoy and learn a lot from doesn’t miss a chance to (safely) play outside in the rain with his son. #resilience is a buzzword these days, but it’s worth learning that opportunities for peace, joy and even some silliness don’t depend on the weather.

Child Custody is about Deciding Who You Are…Not What You Do

There’s a big difference between saying “I quit smoking” and “I’m not a smoker.” Especially in DHR cases, you can’t be effective in your Child Custody case by checking boxes. It’s about deciding who you are and the decisions and actions that flow out of that. ~ Are you the kind of person who is […]

The Benefit of Small Victories in Child Custody…

When you want your kids with you so badly in a #ChildCustody case, it’s easy to focus so much thought and energy on the “BIG WIN” that you take for granted the million little ways to make your situation just a little bit better for you and the kids. Here’s 3 things to appreciate about […]

Quick Tips for Dealing with the GAL in your DHR Child Custody Case…

If you’re dealing with DHR and there is an active custody case in the Juvenile Court system, Alabama law mandates that a Guardian ad Litem, “GAL” (pronounced /jē/ • /ā/ • /el/), be appointed. For practical purposes, think of the GAL as a lawyer for the child or children involved, just like your lawyer. DO […]

What Poker can Teach Us about Child Custody and Co-Parenting…

There’s a lot less causation in our world than we think. There are questionable decisions that work out and there are conservative, rational decisions that blow up in our face. We get that, generally… But for some reason, in Child Custody, a sphere of human activity with even more chaos than usual, we think if […]

Attorney-Client Privilege in Child Custody…

What is the Attorney-Client Privilege in #ChildCustody cases and where does it come from? ~ We’ve all heard that honesty is the best policy. You have to be honest with your doctor and counselors to get the treatment you need. You also have to be honest with your #ChildCustody lawyers to get the advice and […]

In Child Custody, Give Credit Where Credit is Due…

Quick #ChildCustody Tip on a #FoxtrotFriday…but it’s a tricky one and requires just a little perspective and self awareness. Can you testify to one thing the Other Side does well to serve your children? Or one thing that you, yourself, could improve on in your parenting? Giving credit where credit is due and conceding room […]

Do You Have an Appointment with Your Kids in Child Custody and Co-Parenting?

Do you Have an appointment with your kids in #childcustody and #coparenting? Court hearings are set by appointment; that’s called due process and it’s important enough to be in the United States Constitution. Why not have specified times and days for  your Facetime or your phone call with your kids? “Because adults ought to be […]

What is the hardest question to answer in Child Custody cases?

And I know it’s a sensitive question, especially these days… Do you have a job right now? That’s a yes or no question. It’s also probably the #1 question we can’t get a straight answer to in a courtroom, and understandably so, but we are 100% on your team without judgment. We know what we’re […]