Child Custody Devotional – Proverbs 3:5
…lean not on your own understanding. ~ Proverbs 3:5
We’ve written before that the Dirtiest Word in Child Custody was “Understand,” how co-parents and caregivers spin their wheels and dwell on “why” the Other Side said or did what they did. We wanted to help folks quit trying to analyze or crawl in the head of someone that seems to be against us, whether that’s the Other Side or the Judge or DHR or whoever. Here, we’re thinking a little more broadly…
Sometimes we can’t help but wonder whether life or the universe or God is against us or understand how such a terrible situation fits into some greater plan for our lives. We want to know the end game, but we can’t and we won’t.
That’s a problem with narrative thinking. When we get too hung up on what a situation might mean for us in the long run, we get too hung up on the end result. We fail to be present. We fail to remember our principles and adhere to them, however things play out. Peace doesn’t come from a happy ending. It comes from principles and it comes from presence without judgment. Consider this short prayer…
“I am so small in this. Thank you for being so big. It is not for me to judge this moment but only to be present for it. In this moment, guide me in the stewardship of the resources you’ve granted me. I’ll leave the big picture / the end game / tomorrow up to you.”
We’ll never know what “the right decision / action is” in the long run, but when we identify our principles and adhere to them we can have peace in every step, especially the next one.
If you would like to learn more about how you, as a Committed Parent or Caring Relative, can stand up for yourself and be more effective in your Child Custody case, please visit www.ThinkFoxtrot.com/public_calendars/ to schedule your initial consultation at one of our offices.
This article contains general information and should not be construed as legal advice for you and or your unique situation. ~SW, Foxtrot