Do YOU in your Child Custody case…
Are you the weird kid? Good. Me, too. The saddest question I get so very often is what people need to DO to be effective in their Child Custody case. It’s as if these always or newly or imminently single and working and holding it together with duct tape parents think they’re lacking or flawed or flat out wrong. OR, worse yet, they think they need to spend whatever precious energy and time they have away from work or other obligations knowing everything about Child Custody law and civil procedure and rules of evidence associated with it. “What do I need to DO?” they ask.
The bottom line is this, YOU can’t do anything to get custody or get visitation or get support. All YOU can do is wake up, live your life the right way, utilize the unique talents and opportunities God has given you. Then…wait for it…
YOUR LAWYER can take that information and actually DO what needs to be done procedurally to get you the time together that you and your child deserve. #swidt. Don’t ask a barber if you need a haircut.
Here are the questions we get:
- Do I need to start recording phone calls?
- Do I need to quit a job I like because I don’t make enough money?
- Can Mama still have her glass of wine after putting the kids down?
and last, for now, but my word certainly not least…
- Do I need to leave my spouse / partner to get my children back?
Don’t let me drop that last one without an important qualification. If you need to leave your spouse, that’s a grown-up decision for grown-up reasons between the two people in the relationship. Do you love him or her? Do you think he or she is a good parent / step-parent? Then own it. Don’t worry what the Judge thinks, what we think, and for Pete’s sake don’t worry what the Other Side thinks.
It’s just like finding a partner in life in the first place. If you misrepresent yourself, if you are anything less than 100% authentic it won’t matter if it helps you get the girl or get the boy or “win” your Child Custody case. Because we get one shot down here and it’s not a long one but it can sure seem like it if you’re living a lie about the things that matter most.
Here’s an odd example: if you and your partner are the Juul King & Queen of Claysville, Alabama, and your life’s mission is to buy, sell, smoke and advocate for the #VapeLife in private and public fora on a daily basis. Do it…I’m not saying it’s going to help you be awarded the day-to-day care of a child by our Court system. I’m saying you’ve got to make a grown-up decision about who you are and what that person’s priorities are. Authenticity ain’t free. Believe me.
You guys like the Bible, right? You can’t serve two masters.
One last question I get, and if you’re still with me, don’t forget this…
- Can the Other Side bring this up?
They sure can and they probably will. And if it’s YOU, and it’s authentic, and if you’re comfortable with and proud of who you are and who you do, then bring it on.
This article contains general information and should not be construed as legal advice for you and or your unique situation. If you would like to speak more about how you, as a Committed Parent or Caring Relative, can be more effective in your Child Custody case, please visit www.ThinkFoxtrot.com/public_calendars/ to schedule your initial consultation at one of our offices. ~SW, Foxtrot