Sunday Child Custody Devotional – Accountability and Proverbs 27:17
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17.
Accountability is crucial to sharpening your #ChildCustody and #CoParenting skills and to leading your family effectively. The opposite of accountability, simply put, is complicity. If you are not holding yourself, your children and even and especially the Other Side accountable, you are complicit in their behavior and the results you’re seeing in your life.
The last thing we’d say is that you are responsible for the actions of others or that you can change someone else. Bad actors in any circumstance may act unilaterally. But, the Other Side should do so and only do so with the knowledge that there are consequences for their actions, that they neither have your tacit permission nor that you’ll let them off the hook.
Not all accountability, though, must come in the form of reprimand, litigation, court action or any sort of adversarial interaction. When done right and done early, you can provide specific, honest, candid, consistent and unapologetic feedback can prevent that mole hill from becoming a mountain.
The problem is, according to Harvard Business School professor, Francesca Gino, is that even when feedback will be helpful, people avoid providing it to avoid hurting others (and, I think, to avoid whatever ill feelings the another might have of us).
But it ain’t about us, guys. The reason we’re writing this on a Sunday is because it’s in the Book. Avoiding necessary conflict for the sake of your family isn’t love, it’s self-preservation; it’s staying in your comfort zone even though what you get from staying in your comfort zone isn’t what you want for yourself and your family long term.
This article contains general information and should not be construed as legal advice for you and or your unique situation. If you would like to speak more about how you, as a Committed Parent or Caring Relative, can be more effective in your Child Custody case, please visit www.ThinkFoxtrot.com/public_calendars/ to schedule your initial consultation at one of our offices. ~SW, Foxtrot