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  • Writer's pictureStephen Williams

Calendar Your Energy, Not Just Your Events

Anyone raising or caring for a child by themselves knows that a trip to the grocery store, a conversation with your Ex, or maybe even just a shower is an event unto itself. But you don’t have to limit your calendar to scheduling events or activities. Simplify your sad days. Block off time to do nothing. See if a friend can watch the kiddos for a bit just so you can take a nap. Do it intentionally. Research reflects that we don’t have any less free time than folks used to; we just exert less control over it. Then, with what little time we do have we run ourselves ragged with obligations and events. Blank space on our calendar is like a vacuum that will fill up with the most inane nonsense if we don’t plan ahead and are not intentional about how we’ll spend the day.

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The next level pro move when scheduling your day is to think both bigger and smaller. To think bigger, look not only at today but at the next few days as well. Google Calendar has a view option that shows 3 days and I think this just right in a Goldilocks sense. To think smaller, consider your typical energy levels throughout the day and schedule as much as possible around those. Maybe you’re a morning person or a night owl; maybe you need a siesta early in the afternoon. If your work schedule is such that you’re there at a certain time and you can’t control that then you can at least avoid meetings or “deep work” type projects at certain times, using that time for light, administrative tasks or even strategically scheduling a short break during your energy lulls.

Over time, if you pay attention to such things, you can develop routines and habits and then you’re getting double the benefit because you are utilizing your energy throughout the day and not even having to expend energy to plan and schedule it. Schedule time to dial it in and get fired up, but don’t forget to schedule time to recover and keep your game sharp.


This article contains general information and should not be construed as legal advice for you and or your unique situation. If you would like to speak more about how you, as a Committed Parent or Caring Relative, can be more effective in your Child Custody case, please visit to schedule your initial consultation at one of our offices. ~SW, Foxtrot

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