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  • Writer's pictureStephen Williams

Criticism and Disagreement and Learning and Growth in Child Custody

It’s hard not to fear criticism, even for us. We take on difficult cases against individuals and state agencies who think they’re just as right as we think we are and they’re more than willing to tell us so in no uncertain terms. It never feels good and you never really get used to it. But when you consider disagreement and criticism in the right context, you realize one of two things is true: it’s either harmless or the Other Side has just given you an amazing gift.

On the harmless side, if after listening and giving due consideration to the Other Side’s position, you still disagree with them, then no harm done, right? Maybe you’re even more confident in your position or decision after testing it against a different view.

But when criticism is such an amazing gift is when it can be the hardest to take, when your decisions and maybe even your worldview crumble in that very moment when you think, “oh _______! that’s a good point.” When it really hurts is when you’re really learning something new. Instead of lashing out in defensive mode, give yourself some time to absorb this information and deal with the growing pains of getting better and wiser. Then proceed accordingly.


This article contains general information and should not be construed as legal advice for you and or your unique situation. If you would like to speak more about how you, as a Committed Parent or Caring Relative, can be more effective in your Child Custody case, please visit to schedule your initial consultation at one of our offices. ~SW, Foxtrot

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