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  • Writer's pictureStephen Williams

In Child Custody, Get Mad…then Get Curious

Updated: Jul 26, 2022

We’re not going to tell you not to get mad in your #ChildCustody case. It’s gonna happen; that’s okay and totally normal. Getting mad, though, is step one. Step two is to get curious…


So, ask yourself some questions. “If I’m hurt, what is it…in me…that is hurting?” “How am I complicit in this situation?” (<- this is very different from this being your fault; it’s not, but it’s simply wondering how your actions or decisions lead to this moment?) “What can I do to avoid this in the future?”

~ This one’s my favorite, “what can I do, within my control, to make sure that the Other Side’s actions don’t even phase me?”

~ Paying Child Support or Alimony? How can you structure your budget or career so stroking that check is the easiest thing you do all month? In an argument on the phone? Can you exchange necessary information in writing so you don’t have to talk to the Other Side? ~ If life were without challenges, we’d have to find something else to do. Problems are opportunities for our firm to help parents and relatives stand up for themselves. Here’s the secret, problems and challenges are opportunities for you to be stronger. You mad? Good. What’s next?


If you would like to learn more about how you, as a Committed Parent or Caring Relative, can stand up for yourself and be more effective in your Child Custody case, please visit to schedule your initial consultation at one of our offices.


This article contains general information and should not be construed as legal advice for you and or your unique situation. ~SW, Foxtrot

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