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  • Writer's pictureStephen Williams

You can choose your Child Custody reality or just agree with someone else’s.

Rarely do we get our philosophical insights from YA fiction, but Alabama-born author John Green’s “The Fault in our Stars” reminded us about this thoughtful work by René Magritte. The French translates to “this is not a pipe”, i.e., it’s merely a representation of a pipe. In #ChildCustody terms, we remind clients that when the Other Side, DHR or anyone else says or reports anything, for better or worse, all that literally means is that they said it, and we are entitled to investigate that issue, test that representation and present our side to the Court.


We only get hurt or scared when we subconsciously “agree” that the untrue, unfair or hurtful statement reflects our reality. You have a choice to agree with the information being provided or not. If someone walks up to you and says, “It’s #TurtleTuesday so everyone gets a bunny rabbit!”, that’s really not going to mean anything to you unless you are privy to the dark, wonderful secrets of #TurtleTuesday and “agree” that it is due time for you to receive your hare.


Nowhere are we more responsible for our own reality than in our own family. Nowhere do we have to work harder to guard that reality than in #ChildCustody and #CoParenting.

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